How the Fear of Losing Money Holds us Back Financially
The first time I flew business class was in 2021, when I flew back home from Sri Lanka to South Africa last week.
Before I got on the flight, I spent 3 hours at a spa, getting all sorts of full body massages.
And I wanna celebrate that I did this without taking on debt because I still don't own a credit card.
I did this cash but even better - I did this through profits I made by "investing" in one of my clients' business ventures.
I made a return on investment of 20% (R30k+ /US$2k+) in 30 days and used that money to buy a business class ticket.
I also want to brag that I trust my clients to pay this return because I know the work we do works.
I love that I am constantly building this network of kickass Black Women entrepreneurs who are doing epic things in business and that I can hold space for them in multiple ways.
I love that my travels aren't just funded by the salary I make through my business but also by the way I work with money to make it grow in various ventures.
And how sometimes one investment pays for a big expense in my world.
Releasing the fear of losing money changed my relationship with money
When I started working through my deep money traumas, I started to shift the way I reacted to money and stopped freaking out about losing money, which made it easier for me to start taking advantage of opportunities and to see opportunities.
I used to be that woman who went for the cheapest of EVERYTHING and would feel guilty if I didn't order the cheapest meal at the restaurant.
I would spend days berating myself and counting how much I spent to feed myself and how I could have used that money differently.
I was so scared of having money flow out of my account, so I never invested in anything, let alone long term investments or anything in my business.
I wouldn't even hire top coaches or build a team in my business, because I didn't want to pay people.
But crazy - that money would leave and be spent on things I can't remember.
So I am publicly celebrating how much I am willing to give myself and expand now.
It took me years to nurture myself and give to myself and to be comfortable with receiving from myself financially.
Money trauma doesn't JUST play out in us getting rid of money, it also shows up in our fear of expansion, of growing our money and expanding financially
It shows up in our fears of investing because we will lose money.
It shows up in our refusal to follow our dreams by launching that cool idea.
It shows up in our deep fears of spending money because we fear that money won't come back because we grew up in households where money often left and we went days without ever seeing it.
The truth though is that to expand - we will have to use money in different ways - investing, starting businesses etc.
That means money will have to flow out, to circulate so it can come back in.
It's taken me a while to share about this because I didn't have the words to explain this trauma response and also because it goes against the traditional norm of saving every penny and not having fun with money.
I am a firm believer that to heal deep money trauma and expand financially with ease we have to feel at ease within our bodies with spending money as well.
If you feel ready to expand and feel at ease spending money, then I want to invite to the #MoneyMagic course. You can sign up for the course at this link: wealthy-money.com/moneymagic
