Everything in my life started coming together and making sense when I learned to get out of my own way and let life unfold naturally with ease.
A breakthrough happens when you surrender to the journey and stop sabotaging your own success.
How To Get Out Of Your Own Way
1. Determine who or what you want to be
The first step is to determine who you want to be (forget the voice that tells you it’s impossible) and then see where you actually are and determine what actions you need to take to be that person.
2. Change your thinking
Actions are influenced by our underlying beliefs.
My breakthrough came the day I realized that I didn’t want to be a writer because I didn’t believe that what I thought was important or original.
This thought demotivated me and discouraged me from writing.
Changing my thinking, changed the way I saw myself.
3. Find your own truth
It’s easy to believe our thoughts about ourselves, no matter how painful they are.
If you can find just one thing to disprove the beliefs you have about yourself, then you can change your self-perception.
For a thought to be true, it has to be true every time in every situation.
Suppose you believe you aren’t good with money.
You can easily prove this thought to be false if you can find moments in your life when you've managed money well.
4. What do you have to believe to be the person you want to be?
Faith is a powerful thing. Believing in a God or an idea can give us strength but the most powerful thing is to believe in ourselves.
What do you need to believe about yourself to be the person you want to be?
When I decided to be a writer I had to change my thinking and believe that my thoughts were important and that what I had to say mattered to someone somewhere.
5. Reinforce your positive beliefs
Our beliefs are deeply embedded and it takes a while to get rid of them.
You have to have a strategy to keep reinforcing positive beliefs about yourself and your situation to break through.
I reinforce my positive beliefs about myself and my abilities by writing down all the good things that happen to me every day and celebrating major milestones.
This helps when I’m going through a major bout of self-doubt.
I leave you with a quote by Steve Carlton, “You’ve gotta find a way to get out of your own way, so you can progress in life.”
How do you stand in your own way?
Let me know in the comments section.