Episode 98: The Hidden Cost of Self Sacrifice: Unpacking the Vow of Service
In this week’s episode of the MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks about the vow of service, which is a commitment many of us make, sometimes consciously, often unconsciously, to dedicate our lives to serving others. This vow can span across lifetimes and may even have roots in our ancestral lineage. Those who take this vow often find deep fulfillment in helping others, yet it can also lead to challenges like financial strain and burnout.
In the podcast Vangile shares examples from her own family, like nurses and teachers who work tirelessly without charging appropriately for their services, highlighting the connection between this vow of service and the struggle to set boundaries and charge fairly for one's work.
She recounts her personal experience with the vow of service, which she discovered through past life regression therapy. She shares how a past life as a nun in the Catholic Church, where she took a vow of service without compensation, impacted her current life. And how this vow eventually led to years of writer’s blog and stage fright.
The discussion also touches on the vow of invisibility, which often intertwines with the vow of service, where she explains how this vow manifests as a reluctance to be seen or acknowledged for one's contributions, leading to feelings of being unappreciated and unseen.
Vangile also shares how she and her clients work to heal the vow of service and vow invisibility.
This is another insightful episode.
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During this episode, you will learn about:
02:24: Introduction to podcast episode
05:31: The challenge of charging for your services
07:15: Dealing with the vow of service as a Fixer or Sweet One
10:02: Using past life regression therapy to heal and uncover the vow of service
13:51: Charging for my speaking services for the first time
19:33: The impact of the vow of service on Vangile’s business and finances in this lifetime
23:51: Working hard for very little money and making US$500 in 4 years in business
28:06: Finding yourself stuck at a particular income
33:33: The intersection of the vow of service with the vow of invisibility
42:14: How to heal the vow of service and the vow of invisibility
48:05: Invitation to the Visibility Mastery Coaching program at: wealthy-
57:03: Quote by Warren Buffet
Notable Quotes
1. "We don’t need to set ourselves on fire in order to help others and to help others progress, and that doesn't help anyone."
2. "We have to be able to look after ourselves and then, from a space of an overflowing cup, start to keep serving others and keep helping others."
3. "There's no really final or finite death unless the soul comes to the point where it chooses, or no, no, chooses is the right word, but incarnates to the point where it has gained enough wisdom not to want to come back."
4. "One way to also look at a vow service is when we find ourselves stuck at a particular income set point."
5. “I'm a huge, huge believer in pricing appropriately so that we can get the support that we need."
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One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching
7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training
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