On Making Ourselves Invisible So We Can Fit In

On Making Ourselves Invisible So We Can Fit In

Vangile Makwakwa
Self care and Setting boundaries

Furaya Joyce says, "Stop shrinking yourself to fit places you've outgrown."

I can't get this quote out of my mind and I keep thinking about how we sabotage ourselves financially to fit people and places we’ve outgrown:

*Job positions

*Clients

*Managers

*Pricing (refusing to increase price to reflect quality and experience)

*Friends

*Countries

*Romantic relationships

We know it's time to move on, but we refuse and fight it at all costs.

We see the signs and fight them.

We hear the intuitive nudge and ignore it.

Until life makes us and forces us out and when that happens, it's not nice and never peaceful.

How are you shrinking yourself to fit in something you have outgrown and how is it affecting your finances?

When we shrink ourselves, we make ourselves invisible so we can fit in.

How To Release The Fear, Shame & Drama Of Asking For Money Or A Raise

How To Release The Fear, Shame & Drama Of Asking For Money Or A Raise

Vangile Makwakwa
Changing Our Feelings About Money

How do you feel about asking for money in any situation?

- Asking clients to pay you?

- Asking for a raise?

- Asking friends to pay you what they owe you?

What goes through your head when you have to ask for money, even if it’s money owed to you?

Asking for money or increasing my prices and letting people know about the price increase was very stressful for me.

I used to believe that asking for money made me look like a beggar and made people pity me; I used to think people would look at me and think, “oh shame, she’s broke, that’s why she is asking for her money.”

And because I didn’t want the pity (even when I was broke), I’d wait, pray and hope that people would remember to pay me my money or tip me for work done.