My debt was a reflection of how I lived my whole life. I was convinced I’d spend my whole life paying of debt and struggling.
Have you ever had moments in your life when your finances were just going well?
Where you’re just doing well with money?
Even if it’s for a week or a month or a few years?
Everything was just going fine, you were making the money you wanted, you were saving money, things were working according to plan and it looked like you were gonna be just fine.
And then suddenly, BOOM, something happens in your life and from that moment, everything just falls apart.
Out of the blue, there's an emergency, kids need things, cars break down, you’re dipping into your savings and going from saving to creating debt.
Sometimes this is a once off event that causes everything to fall apart for a long time and it just feels like we’re willfully sabotaging.
At other times, our financial sabotage happens at a specific time of the year, around a specific person or when we’re in a specific city or country.
How can I reach my financial goals faster?
That’s a question I often get asked by Money Magic students when someone, joins the course, does a few meditations and suddenly has a wild breakthrough, compared to someone who’s been doing the course for months and sees small shifts.
Often, we set a financial goal but then we delay taking action.
We want proof that we’ll succeed in making that goal a reality and wait for favorable conditions or wait to feel ready to take action.
Or we take action for the sake of taking action.
It's not just about taking action, it's about taking action that’s in line with our financial goal.
Taking action for the sake of taking action, will keep you busy but won’t get you closer to your goal. Instead, it’ll leave you frustrated and exhausted.
“Why does it seem like other people get what they ask for and I just struggle?”
That’s a question I received a few months ago in my inbox.
The question refers to the #AskTuesday discussions that I run in the Wealthy Money Magicians Facebook group.
In the group, people ask the universe for their heart’s desires and then give feedback on #WinningWednesday.
Some people have wild breakthroughs and get what they ask for with ease and speed, whilst some people struggle to get what they want, which can be really frustrating.
I sometimes fall into the group that struggles to get what they want but I’ve learned to just trust the journey and relax.
One of the Money Magic students recently asked if I don't I get tired of doing the inner work and the money work.
Of course, I get tired!
Inner work is hard on most days.
I don’t always want to meditate or look at my finances or show up for Wealthy Money work.
Sometimes I want to stay and in bed and do nothing.
And to be honest, when I feel like that I do stay in bed or I hop on a plane or a scooter and go on an epic adventure.
But, as the saying goes - I always take myself on all those adventures and my problems follow me, so at some point I get back to doing the inner work.
I realized when I was heavily in debt that I could do all the practical money stuff and see some shifts, but if I wanted the major shifts, I needed to commit to the inner work and that nothing would change until I changed whatever was blocking me internally,
And this is one of the reasons I keep doing the inner work.
I worked 3 jobs to pay for my undergrad at the University of Cape Town (UCT).
My mom was unemployed and had no money and my uncle was going through financial difficulties.
My dad could have helped me pay for university but we’d had a fight about something (can’t remember what) in my first year and I was proving a point that I didn’t need him in my life.
And since he was the only adult who could help me; I ended up working 3 jobs to pay my bills.
I won’t lie, times were hard - I barely had money for food (I would skip meals to save money for rent and transport) and was always sleep deprived.
At some point, one of my friends forced me to go to the financial aid office to ask for help and it turned out that I was on the Dean’s List and was able to get a little bit of funding for my studies.
My friends had to beg me to take money from my mother and to apply for a student loan.
I only took the money from my mom because I was at the end of my tether; I remember feeling so ashamed that I took money from my mom, like I’d failed in some way.
Even in all my financial struggles, I had a very hard time receiving money.
This inability to receive money and allow money into my life has been one of my greatest entrepreneurial challenges.
It was a huge contributor to the collapse of my first business because it’s not enough to ask for money from clients and the universe, you also need to be energetically open to receive the money you asked for.